I think I’m on Bart with Lateefa Simon. I wanna say “I’m sorry for your loss”, “thank you for you”, “hope you have a good day”. Something to acknowledge her…and yet I don’t want to invade her privacy, her personal space, her routine…is this a product of our society? I’m posting in tumblr- I’m another one of “those” people on their phones on Bart and not talking to people. And yet I just told a woman I liked her bag. She said thanks as she grabbed her phone and checked Facebook.
Ms. Simon (or her doppelgänger - yes I finally have an opp to use this word!) has earbuds in and is texting someone. I am glad she can connect with someone in her life with this technology we have. I am glad I can share my thoughts with you now too…
Technology in and of itself is not the problem. Modernization in and of itself is not the problem…so what is it?
Fear of connection? Having not enough time to love everyone in the world and so we create defenses and rationalizations for why we don’t love and talk with strangers….but love is not finite. I can love someone and decide not to become BFF.
Love is on my mind a lot lately. What does it mean to focus in loving instead of being loved? I am really letting in these days that I am so ridiculously loved in my life. I’m grateful and proud and humbled. So if my mission isn’t to be loved, and I want to love, what does that look like? How does love create more love instead of deplete? Again, love isn’t finite in quantity.
Well, today, my love for Ms. Simon is partially expressed in this post. I’m sorry for your loss. Thank you for you. I hope you have a good day.
I was cleaning up my desk and found a note I wrote:
Principles for talking to high school students: Don’t use scare tactics.
Earlier this year, I spoke at Berkeley High and I remember saying to them in a provocative way “I hate being asked to talk to high school students about human trafficking. Why? Because I am often asked to approach you with scare tactics. I’m supposed to freak you out and make you worried that anyone walking down the street could be abducted and trafficked, or you could be lured online, so watch out!”
I told them how I don’t like this strategy. I don’t like that it puts the onus on the underage child to protect themselves.
I also don’t like it when I hear that high school curriculum about human trafficking is basically, “hey boys, don’t be pimps” and “hey girls, be careful not to be victims.”
What kind of education is that? First of all, what would it be like to boy in that situation? Where the adults are assuming he is going to be a pimp?
And what is it like to be a girl? Where they are basically being told that they have control whether or not they become a victim? Sure, you can say that one can do things to decrease the likelihood of being victimized…we hear this all the time, “lists” of what to do like, walk with a friend at night, carry mace, etc. But these things don’t address why and how the perpetrator is perpetrating…
Plus, the scare tactic of “this could happen to anyone” skews the fact that there are communities that are targeted specifically. It also skews the fact that most perpetration of sexual violence happens by someone that people already know.
Alrighty, just my first shot at expanding on my one line note.